My vision for all of us is that we practice a kinder way of relating to ourselves. One where…

  •     We reach out and connect to others in the moments we feel like hiding
  •    We see the adaptivity in all parts of ourselves, even the tough ones
  •    We seek to understand ourselves through curiosity and openness
  •    We listen to our limits and see our needs as worthwhile
  •    We learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves


The problem is, we live in a culture that can be very shaming, in so many painful areas - from our productivity to our parenting, to our relationship with our bodies.

Shame is an intense, wholebody experience that we all need to find ways to cope with. When left unaddressed, shame causes us to hide away, lash out, withdraw from others, or berate ourselves. It affects our relationships with others as well as our relationship with ourselves.

Because of its pervasive and all-encompassing nature, shame needs to be treated differently than other uncomfortable emotions. That’s where shame resilience comes in.


Shame resilience starts with being able to identify shame and take a step back from it when it arises.


The purpose of this course is to provide you with 6 concrete tools you can use to help support that resilience.

As a beginning, here’s my gentle reminder:

You are not broken. You are not a mistake. 

We experience shame because we’ve been shamed.

And, you can start to feel whole again.

In this course, you'll learn:

  • Why CONNECTION helps and how to use it in a caregiving system

  • Common signs and reactions to RECOGNIZE SHAME

  • What SELF-COMPASSION is all about and how to boost it

  • Noticing, acknowledging, and changing your SELF-TALK

  • How to ACCEPT YOUR LIMITS and set boundaries

  • Building CONTENTMENT to appreciate yourself

You will receive:

  • 6 pre-recorded video lessons (20-45 minutes each).

  • Real tools that you can try out with me in the video and then continue practicing on your own.

  • Links to additional resources to accompany each topic.

Course curriculum

    1. Getting the most out of this course

      FREE PREVIEW

    2. Before we begin...

    1. Why connection helps & how you can use it to activate your own caregiving system

    1. Common signs & reactions to shame

    1. My story of self-compassion & what it's all about

      FREE PREVIEW

    2. 3 tools to boost your compassion

    1. Well done, you!

    1. Noticing, acknowledging, and changing our self-talk

    2. 3 creative exercises to adjust self-talk

About this course

  • $190.00
  • 13 lessons
  • 2.5 hours of video content

Your instructor

Nicole Perry

M.A., Registered Psychologist

Nicole Perry is a Registered Psychologist whose approach is collaborative and feminist at its heart. She specializes in shame resilience, setting boundaries, and healing trauma. Nicole understands that many of us are coping with overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame that keep us from believing we deserve good things, and works to guide her clients toward a more compassionate way forward. Nicole approaches her healing work with warmth and curiosity, and offers a safe container for working with difficult experiences. Nicole provides counselling to individuals and groups in addition to her online courses, focused mainly in the LGBTQ+ community in Edmonton.

FAQ

  • When does the course start and finish?

    The course starts now and never ends! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.

  • How long do I have access to the course?

    After enrolling, you will have unlimited access to this course for an entire year.

  • What if I am unhappy with the course?

    I absolutely don't want you to spend money on something you don't want. So, please make sure you're clear on what's involved in the course and ask me any questions if you have them! Oh, and keep in mind the $185 is in Canadian Dollars. If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact me in the first 3 days and I will give you a full refund.

  • Is this therapy?

    This course is a non-interactive educational experience, which means it's not the same as therapy nor a substitute for therapy. If you find that the material brings up strong feelings of shame or is connected with unprocessed trauma, I strongly encourage you to follow up with a therapist in your area. You may be able to find one through www.psychologytoday.com or www.therapyden.com (US only). If you reside in Alberta, Canada, you may also check out my website to inquire about my availability.

  • How can I get the most out of this course?

    First, know what to expect. In this course I mainly use pre-recorded video lessons, with links to additional resources. I offer a mix of story, information, and activities to try out with me. Second, be honest with yourself about what you need, figure out what would help you the most in making this commitment to yourself and what will keep you going. Finally, practice! Making change takes time and practice. It may be helpful to think about how you can practice, integrate, or reflect on what you've learned after each lesson in your daily life. Keep in mind that healing doesn't happen overnight, and have patience with yourself.

Your investment